It can be a difficult time when our parents start needing care. These are the people who have taken care of us for their whole lives, and so taking care of them can be a big adjustment. Maybe they’ve gotten ill, their mobility needs have changed, or they can no longer cope with their day to day tasks without help. Either way, there are things we can do to ensure our parents get the right help and support and ensure that they’re happy, comfortable and know that they’re loved.
Spend Time with Them--
It can be a struggle balancing everything when life gets busy. When you have a house to run, a job to go to, children and pets to look after and so much more it can leave you feeling like you don’t have time for much else. But spending a bit of time with your parents is a way to show them that you care. You could call around in the evening and watch TV with them, or play a game. You could invite them round for a family dinner at the weekend or anything else. The simple act of giving someone your time, even if you’re not able to help with their daily care lets them know you’re around and that you care about them.
Arrange the Right Care--
If you’re not able to provide care yourself, you’ll need to make sure you make the right arrangements for your parents to be looked after. This could be someone to assist them with cleaning their home, shopping for them or helping with personal hygiene. A lot of families are shocked to discover just how expensive long-term care can be-- Medicaid for example only supports short-term care. To make sure everything is sorted and properly arranged you will need to speak to a lawyer who specializes in this area. Neufeld, Kleinberg & Pinkiert, for example, are one such company.
Make Sure Their Living Arrangements are Suitable--
Many elderly people are able to stay in their own homes. However, some adaptations may be necessary. If your parents struggle with stairs, you may have to invest in a stair lift or move a bedroom and bathroom downstairs. If one of them now uses a wheelchair, it will need to be made wheelchair friendly such adding ramps and having the right furniture layout inside. If they require extra care, maybe due to a mental health issue such as dementia, it may be more appropriate to move them to a home instead. This is always a difficult decision, but it means that you have peace of mind that they’re safe and well looked after when you’re not around and can’t put themselves in any danger.
Get the Right Information--
There’s a wealth of information floating around online. You could join a forum or call a helpline for advice when it comes to making tough decisions. You don’t have to do it alone, having the right information puts you in the best position to make the right choices. When you have elderly parents relying on you, you’ll want to make the very best choices for them.