01 October 2015

Hope Rising - When Dealing with Disappointment


My beliefs are quite personal but, I do go to church, and for the next few weeks we are learning about HOPE RISING, and how it affects the following:

+ When life doesn't go the way you planned
+ When the speed of life is out of control
+ When dealing with disappointment
+ When facing life alone
+ During a well-lived life
+ When made for significance

I have a few problems of my own, and I feel a lot better when I openly write about it.  I thought that this would be a good place to write about the lessons for the next few weeks.  

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Last week, I wrote about what I want to do when my life feels out of control.  You'd be glad to know that I focused in on a lot of my 'me' things.  It's been good, and it works.  You should try it.

This week, we are discussing how to deal with disappointment.

Boy, I know how this feels.  I really, really do.

I like to think that people disappointment a lot more than I do them.  However, I know this isn't true.  Everybody deals with disappointment differently, and I am horrible at dealing with it.  I let it fester, I let it eat me alive.

Here, it's best to understand that we all get dealt horrible hands in life.  Many times, we get down on our knees and look to the sky screaming, "WHY ME?".

Lately, and I mean within the past year, I've had a bunch of disappointment.  Mostly with other people not being up to par with the standards I set for myself as far as work goes and life itself, actually.  When I get disappointed, everybody knows it.  I let it affect every aspect of my life.  I get depressed, I get angry, I get vengeful.  We all know that this isn't how it should be, so I had to shift focus.  I had to or I wasn't going to get any better.

Here are some things that I fixed in order to protect myself from disappointment:

1.)  Realize that just because I wouldn't make a certain decision doesn't mean that it's the wrong decision.

2.)  Not trying to judge anybody-- for their walk of life is different than mine.

3.)  Let go.  Let go of it all-- if it doesn't do well for my soul, it needs to go.

4.)  Expect the worst, hope for the best.

5.)  Keep on goin'.  Don't sit and let it get to me, I don't need it.  Live and let live.

Lastly, it's one thing to protect myself from disappointment-- it's another to be oblivious to the fact that it will still happen.  I know it's going to happen, life isn't perfect.  People in my life aren't perfect.  I know that I'm also a cause for disappointment in other's lives.  I can fix myself, but I can't fix others.

This week, think about how you let disappointment affect you.  Do you let it roll right off of your shoulder, or do you let it boil?  How do you deal with the unfairness of life?  Write some things down that will help protect you from feelings of disappointment.

I'm excited to write about next week-- stay tuned!

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